Well, i discover that the feelings is actually a cycle, and it will happen whenever we meet new friends. It starts when we meet new faces, and that's when we will feel excited and curious. Getting know better, we feel happy and thankful and we will feel that they are the world, teasing one another about the new target/relationship, updating one another with latest gossip in the class, complaining about those hated, and many more.
And after that, things will change. Same concept about couples applies, we get to know them in real. Just like nominal income and real income, after revealing the mask of inflation, we approach real income. After revealing all the doubt, we get to see the real friends. Logically, we should be more familiar with one another; but it really depends. This is the time we can get closer to one another, and if we do, this is forever; but this is also the time to feel disgusted and annoyed to one another, when we finally get to know the real attitude and realize that we can't interact with one another in the previous way anymore.
In my world, the latter always applies. If things are repeating, the problem must be coming from me myself. This is the theory. So is it really my problem? I guess it's my problem. Well, i admit that i am very emotional and protective to myself. Some people call this selfish. I will get very irritated if i do not agree with something and often overreact. I will not trust people easily, and always think for the worst when people try to do something like praising. I always demand for the best. I always believe in my principles. These are my problem.
Changes have to be made. It takes time, certainly. I will go for the emotional and overreact. After analysis, i get the reason for this attitude. Although i really dislike PCGHS, but i am very thankful that i actually chose this school because it teaches me what is DISCIPLINE. So i will get very irritated when some people react in the way that i cannot agree with. So, i develop statements that will prevent me from overreacting and being emotional:
1. How people react is their business, none of your business.
2. They are of that kind, and you are not, so don't "count" with them.
3. It is meaningless for you to get so angry, because you're not their mums, and you should be glad that they are not your kids.
4. It is of no use for you to get so angry, because they will never feel that, and it even worsen your health, risking your health for this kind of people is really worthless.
I hope these can help.
Some people said, don't always think that what you believe is correct. You might get some principles wrong and you don't know yourself. Well, i also develop some statements for this issue:
1. You don't need to share and spread your principles to others. Just keep it to yourself and make yourself strong.
2. You don't need to accept others' theories and believes as well. Don't agree? Say it to your heart, and just smile to the people.
3. Don't "count" with those who doesn't even know who is correct in the real situation.
4. Maybe you are always wrong, try to look things differently.
5. Empathy - think why people react like this. If still cannot accept, stick to your own and forget about what people say.
A Chinese saying is really true - 忍一時風平浪靜(dunno how to translate). We need to "tahan" for not causing trouble.
It's a way to survive - don't let others influence you or you'll fall into their traps!
November 7, 2010
10.53PM
