1. Humans often look and listen to matters from one sided.
This is absolutely true because i have experienced it not long ago. When people start to avoid you and show their annoyance on you, you will know something has happened, without giving you any chance on clarifying the situation. The most upset fact is the one who often influences people in this way is the one "SEEM" to be very pity and being bullied by the one who "DOESN'T EVEN HAVE CHANCE TO CLARIFY", and due to sympathy people often believe the one "SEEM TO BE BULLIED". Most of those people are intelligent people and those who think themselves intelligent and correct. I was once people like this that i made conclusion very quick and thoughtless. And i would say my babe who is not this type of people helps a lot in triggering my thought from different sides.
Nevertheless this situation can't be helped as this is human nature. Less people will view things from two sides, rationally and objectively. So we have this called “潛意識”.
2. Humans often can't differentiate between discussing and criticizing.
For instance, a friend posts a status that will trigger discussion. You go and comment something against that status stance because you do not agree with the view and so you share out your thoughts. However most of the time people will think you purposely object and make him/her "faceless", or that you hate that so much that you have to mess up the comments of their status. Well, in reality, most of the times these are just discussion. People will definitely have different stances and this is completely fine. Discussion often triggers thoughts to view things from different side and we learn from that. Sadly most of the people do not know how to LEARN.
Nevertheless humans are emotional animals. People will often facts with emotions without realizing they allow their emotions to overtake the brain cells in interpreting things.
3. Humans often think themselves deserves a lot of things.
Okay, we can view this from guys' point-of-view and girls'. Very sorry but i have to say girls nowadays are very, or perhaps too, dominant in relationship. I often see quotes like "girls who are helping guys to save money shouldn't be treated badly by guys", which sounds very correct, but in contrast the post titled "the function of boyfriends" lists down 18 "functions" of boyfriends, as if bfs must have these "functionality" to be qualified as bfs. I mean, hello girls, you think helping in saving is a great job and should be appreciated, but the 18 jobs bfs have done for you are like granted? Then i tell you you don't even WORTH to have that bf.
And guys often think they deserve pretty girls at their side. Should you be gifted a mirror for self clarification? I wouldn't want to say much d as this sickness of guys are already too common that AGAIN emotions have overtaken the objectivity of guys in viewing themselves and how much they deserve.
Nevertheless, no people is obligated to treat anyone good and no people is obligated to be treated good as well. I always believe this sentence that i appreciate everything people have done for me and i hope people will do the same to me. No one deserves anything until the one has done something.
Kind of disagree with my points? Always feel free to comment as i can differentiate between discussing and criticizing, at lease. xD
Nov 1, 2012
11.27PM
