Yesterday saw a post with this caption, i finally believe it. I wanna say something very old-fashioned but very true - you cannot force happiness to come. Sometimes when you sincerely hope for a relationship to grow, it won't grow as you want; but when you don't expect a relationship to develop, it will develop in a way out of your expectation.
Sometimes maybe due to the way we are brought up or the achievement that we have got, we tend to demand - demand for better. But sometimes we will tend to ignore another expect - what we can give to the other while we are demanding. For once, i also thought that i have to live with certain types of person and thus i demanded. But as time goes, i finally understand that is only a "formula" that governs my thought all the time, and i finally took off the "formula" and look at people in different aspect. Realizing that some people may not behave exactly like our first impression, i also discovered that some people, with all the strengths wrapped up, has serious weaknesses.
With this, i met several people. I wouldn't say they are wrong, no matter how people still have the right to behave in the way they like. But what i felt was, LUCKILY, i didn't get closer with those people. It is always not wrong to demand but maybe we should analyze ourselves and demand in proportion. I don't know exactly but i feel over demanding is an action showing that someone is not contented with what he/she has. Of course we have to fight for living, but appreciating what we have will make us feel happier and more motivating in pursuing a better life. When you're not contented enough, you will feel people around are owing you and along the way you will get frustrated easily and eventually miss out all the precious moment in life.
I especially cannot stand 大男人. I mean, hey, we girls do not owe you. I choose to have a bf because i wanna share my happiness and pains with you. I saw a quote stating that guys don't listen to complains, please don't find them except if you really need help. Come on, if i don't share my frustration with you, i don't need you anymore, okay? And one more: "Guys don't remember dates, jot those down and keep reminding them." Come on, if i need to keep on reminding you, i might as well celebrate those special days with parents 'cause they will certainly remember well. If you don't even want to put effort on the relationship, then you might as well don't be in a relationship. Guys are really ridiculous.
And to those (...), i quote a meaningful phrase to you.
"Yeah, there are many girls out there who are prettier and better. Your girl is just not perfect enough. But can't you see that you're also the same? You are not perfect enough either, and yet she chose you. There are
always better things not in our possession but why don't you try to appreciate what we have? "
So, i am thankful to what i have right now. I have a happy family, i have friends (perhaps they might not be too sincere but at lease it doesn't affect me much) and of course the special one who is way much different from those that i have mentioned. Yeah perhaps the quote (the first sentence in this post) best describes the situation - i finally know why those "certain types of people" are not for me.
Well, i guess i am not mature enough, i should perhaps learn not to get mood swung by those unimportant comments. =)
May 27, 2012
10.59AM
